Background: “This past spring, Jess and I had the first of eight sessions of couples therapy with Terry Real, a best-selling author and by far the most famous of the therapists we’ve seen during our marriage.”
“Early in our marriage, I would simmer for days, accumulating a resentful charge until a tiny remark, a gesture, a joke sparked an explosion.” — How I Learned That the Problem in My Marriage Was Me, NY Times, 02/05/2025
In this couples counseling session, the man should ask himself quietly and honestly one simple question. Is she the one? Sounds like the answer, at least to me, is no. Even mere friends don’t treat each other like that. Can they soldier on? Probably. Should they though?
Should he stay or should he go? Be fair to the other person if she is NOT the one. Happily uncoupled is likely better and healthier than unhappily married (or coupled).
Every problem marriage is rooted in some sort of childhood abuse suffered by the man? Really?
“The truth about marriage — including my own — is that even the most functional couples are merely doing the best they can with the lives that have been bestowed on them.”
Really? How does he know about every marriage?